BOUNCING BACK FROM FAILURE

BOUNCING BACK FROM FAILURE


Home


Favour Samuel

Sep 4, 2024

Share: Centered Image            
It was the weekend, which is the best day of the week for me. I get to relax after doing some house chores and also reading another favorite book(yes, every weekend has at least one favorite book. Making another favorite book add to that collection) so you know right?
It was already one o'clock in the afternoon. This is one thing I still can't apprehend since I was a teenager and I don't know if it is only me. Please you guys should help me and let me understand why in God's name, hours fly- by so much faster during weekends than other days?(if you have an answer, please share in the comment section).
The sun was doing what he knew best and there I was enjoying what I like best. It was my ideal weekend time; sitting in a blue plastic chair in front of the balcony with my legs crossed, munching my kuli kuli, accompanied with a bottle of chilled water and most especially a book. Having this moment is the best for me and I always look forward to it.
I also take that time to observe my neighborhood— to know this and that happening because it seems like I literally live here only on weekends.

One thing about reading a book, especially a thrilling novel, is that the mind visualizes the scenes in our head just like watching TV— every action and character comes to display.
Along the line, I came across this unfamiliar word that I have to check out the meaning in my phone dictionary and almost immediately a Facebook notification popped up.
It was actually a memory notification from four years ago. It was a distraction but I wanted to know what it was about. So I clicked..
QUEENS COMPETITION 2020 was boldly written on the soft flier with my name. During the COVID-19 pandemic when boredom finished my life. I accepted the challenge even when it wasn't my thing or maybe it's because it came with a monthly paycheck and a cash prize(Don't ask me how much it was). The post came with a written interview of; my name, origin, occupation, reason for participation and so on.
I read to a point when I was asked: Where do you see yourself in the next 5-10 years? And my answer was, putting on my blue scrub to the lab. I am currently a student of Biology education. Smiles— All right, that should be a lie. I'm human and I felt bad but did I let this feeling envelope me? Yes, for a moment I had this slight anger for myself. Did I let it linger on or let it define who I am? No.
It is totally understandable to get emotional when your plans for life seem so far from reaching. I have seen situations where people let their failure or unaccomplished dreams define who they are and what they represent. Whenever I get this feeling, I channel it to become my strength instead of weakness. I tell myself; this is just a small setback for my own breakthrough, I may not be living the life I plan but surely my creator's plans are not of mediocre. I'll shine no matter where life pushes me to. I'll never be frustrated by the challenges life keeps throwing, rather I will prove to those setbacks that I'm a born warrior filled with strength and victory I must become regardless.
I still haven't given up on those dreams, so should you too. Look at this phase of your life as a preparatory class coaching you for the next big thing yet to come. And I know we'll make it. I can't wait to see you, my reader at the very top. I'll be there waiting.
Here are few way you can look at your failure through an optimistic viewpoint:


DON'T LET YOUR FAILURE DEFINE WHO YOU ARE: I hated myself for the things I couldn't accomplish. It got worse that I spoke less of myself at every given time. “ My mates are celebrating one big thing by themselves but here I'm still battling with my grade ” Yes, I always belittled myself with these kinds of words. Always compare my life with others and evaluate myself through other people's success. It's great to keep track of one's life but what happened to celebrating those little wins? Everyone has their own race and trust me, you are doing great in your own lane. So fight back the negative thoughts and think of a better way to improve yourself.
LEARN FROM OTHERS’ SUCCESS STORY: Almost every successful man has one setback story to tell about their breakthrough. Going through these stories keeps one inspired..
ACCEPT YOUR FAILURE: Acceptance does mean you should be proud of your failure or giving up. It's you understanding that you hit the rock bottom and figuring out the best way to hit the top again.

SELF REFLECTION AND AFFIRMATION: Looking back on my days of recovery, those daily affirmations were my solid rock. I'll look at myself in the mirror and profess great words about myself. I also learnt to analyze my mistakes and failures for self growth.

Remember, setbacks are preparing you for greater breakthrough— if only you learn from them

Related Posts



DARK ROOM

In the dark room, this feeling crapped in. I felt so uneasy, like i was…


GONE


The things, I never say

Dear diary, It's been awhile since we last talked. Yes, it's been three months since…


The things, I never say

Dear diary, It's been awhile since we last talked. Yes, it's been three months since…


Mon Cher Amor, My Sweet Love, My Valentine

She always stood firm with her armor willing to fight. with her shoulder up high…


A LETTER TO MY HIGH SCHOOL FRIENDS

“Hey, after the WAEC Exam, what's next?” “What are your plans?”


BROKEN

He dared to ask me not to take his son away from him. His son?…


CRACK

Growing up, we were taught to have big dreams and work toward achieving them. We…


NOT AGAIN!

I never knew what it was like to have a father figure. I happen to…


NOT AGAIN!

I never knew what it was like to have a father figure. I happen to…


CENSURE.

MONDAY, 9:35am Awka, Nigeria


HER STORY

Their chants repeat in strong rhythmical manners to my hearing; a vocal praise full of…


BOOK REVIEW — THE DEVIL IN MY HEAD.


BOOK REVIEW; YOU ARE YOUNG NOT STUPID BY KINGSLEY NNAEMEKA


COMPARE AND DESPAIR

Ade and Emeka have been friends way back from their university school days. They were…


SOCIAL MEDIA


BOOK REVIEW _ WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINISTS.


ONE OF US IS LYING.

LEO POV


ONE OF US IS LYING 2

SANDRA'S POV


SELF-HELPY_ TWO WOMEN ON A TRAIN

I couldn't sleep well at night. Different thoughts came flashing before my face. Yea, this…


BOOK REVIEW — THE STUDENTS' BLUEPRINT TO SUCCEEDING AT BOTH SCHOOL AND ONLINE BUSINESS.


LIFE HAPPENS

We all had our lives planned out. “ I will have my first degree at…


BEING A TEEN

Hey, come closer. My name is Chukwuzaram Ofordebe but my friends call me Zaram, which…


PARENTHOOD AND PARENTING.

Parenthood comes with the most tedious and challenging moment of any parents. It is time…


THE VOICE.


TALES OF A YOUTH


WHY YOU'RE BROKE! BY EMMANUEL AKPE

BOOK REVIEW WHY YOU'RE BROKE!


The Smart Money Woman By Arese Ugwu

“Success is deeply rooted in having a solid plan that is tailored to what you…


BLISS

It's raining cats and dogs today, it seems like the earth would be swallowed. It…


LOST WRITERCRAFT

I ANONYMOUSLY WRITE TO ALL WRITERS OF THE WORLD.


A MESSAGE TO MY FATHER

I don't seem to tell you enough how lucky and thankful you made me. I…


BOOK REVIEW — THE HOUSEMAID

BOOK REVIEW


BOOK REVIEW — THE HOUSEMAID'S SECRET

BOOK REVIEW BOOK TITLE: THE HOUSEMAID'S SECRET AUTHOR: FREIDA McFADDEN GENRE: PSYCHOLOGICAL THRILLER


STRESS OF MOTHERHOOD

Motherhood is no child's play. It requires commitment, dedication and likewise more. It is just…


IF WE MUST LIVE

Can one really elude these pains from oneself? In slavery I was born and the…


BOOK REVIEW— THE HOUSEMAID IS WATCHING

BOOK REVIEW


VALE OF TEARS

I stood still and all I could possibly see was life flashing before my eyes.…


BEFORE YOU DIE.

When we are asked by a person—”When is it best to die?” Almost time our…


CAGE OF DEPRESSION


WHO ARE YOU?

During those lonely moments, she would stand before the mirror hung right in front of…


CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

You know when they say “Train up a child in the way he should go:…


BOOK REVIEW — THE 85 UNDENIABLE FACTS OF LIFE

BOOK REVIEW BOOK TITLE: THE 85 UNDENIABLE FACTS OF LIFE BOOK AUTHOR: ROBERT WILLIAM


BOOK REVIEW — HOW TO DIE FAMOUS


BOOK REVIEW: THE PERFECT MARRIAGE


MY BODY IS MY CRIME


BOOK REVIEW: AFTER I DO


BOOK REVIEW: NEXT LEVEL THINKING

BOOK REVIEW BOOK TITLE: NEXT LEVEL THINKING BOOK AUTHOR: JOEL OSTEEN ‘10 POWERFUL THOUGHTS FOR…


DEAR SOMI


BOOK REVIEW — AN ANONYMOUS GIRL BY GREER HENDRICKS & SARAH PAKKANEN

BOOK REVIEW


BOOK REVIEW: VERITY BY COLLEEN HOOVER


BOOK REVIEW: CONFESS BY COLLEEN HOOVER


ADULTING 101: HOW TO NAVIGATE ADULTHOOD

Bad day has a way of playing with one's mind. You feel less of yourself,…


BOOK REVIEW: EAT THAT FROG! BY BRIAN TRACY


BOOK REVIEW: THE ART OF CREATIVE THINKING BY JOHN ADAIR


BOOK REVIEW: THE SEVEN HUSBANDS OF EVELYN HUGO BY TAYLOR JENKINS REID


BOOK REVIEW: IT ENDS WITH US BY COLLEEN HOOVER


LOST

I have always heard people say that our 20’s is the best part of life…


THE BITTER TRUTH

And at that moment your life starts flashing before your very eyes. It is really…


BODY POSITIVITY AND SELF ACCEPTANCE

I never really felt beautiful. Yes, you read right. Back then in secondary school I…


THE MISFITS


BOOK REVIEW: ADANNA BY ADESUWA O'MAN NWOKEDI


GRATITUDE


BOOK REVIEW: AKWAUGO BY ROSEMARY OKAFOR


MORAL DILEMMA

She was lying on the hospital bed and her bloodshot eyes were gazing to nothingness.…


BOOK REVIEW: INFLUENCE HER BY AKANINYENE AKPAN


THE GOLDEN CHILD

Growing up, I always thought that my sister was the golden child. She was smart,…


BOOK REVIEW: OGADINMA BY UKAMAKA OLISAKWE

BOOK REVIEW BOOK TITLE: OGADINMA BOOK AUTHOR: UKAMAKA OLISAKWE GENRES: Young Adult Fiction, African Literature,…


POWER OF VULNERABILITY


UNSPOKEN FEELINGS

I sat at the plastic chair in my small room, staring blankly at the wall.…


INADEQUACY AND INFERIORITY


ALWAYS CHOOSE 'YOU'

I grew up in a family where I was taught that putting others first was…


DISCOVER YOUR PASSION

THE DAY I FOUND MYSELF…. Those days are still vivid in my memory – days…


BOOK REVIEW: I AM MALALA BY MALALA YOUSAFZAI WITH CHRISTINA LAMB

Centered Image